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Maganda Ba? True!

by on Oct.13, 2018, under Film & TV, Queer, Society

Mamu; And A Mother, Too may seem, on the surface, just another film about the lives of transwomen, one that could either be too inappropriately comedic or else much too maudlin and schmaltzy.

And yet, it carefully avoids these while still retaining humor and heart.

The titular Mamu is a veteran transwoman sex worker living with her long-time partner, Vincent. Due to her estranged sister’s death, Mamu ends up taking her teenaged niece – Bona, who is also trans – into their home. Amidst poverty and growing walls between her and Vincent, Mamu struggles to adjust to having an adopted daughter who is as strong-willed as she is but who is perhaps not yet as street smart. It is the comparison and contrast between Mamu and Bona that drives much of the film, and the question of the repeating cycles of life and the possibility (or impossibility) of breaking those cycles becomes increasingly critical.

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Imprint

by on Sep.23, 2018, under My Life, Queer, Society

The year was 1998.

It was a time darker than I really acknowledged in the succeeding years. I have always considered it past me, that I’ve put it behind me, that I’ve learned my life lessons, that it was something I could easily shrug off, maybe even laugh off.

Apparently, it wasn’t entirely true, and all these years I’ve suppressed how much of an impact that incident really had in my life.

Recently, at the suggestion of my mentor Jessica, we visited Healing House. We did some alternative therapy, and during my session, I recalled that dark time – the only time I have ever really felt suicidal.

It seems so trivial now. I was an immature, barely-21 young man. Then again, what seems trivial now meant the whole world to someone so hopeful in life during that time.

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Struggling

by on Sep.04, 2018, under My Life, Society

The last time that I ever had truly suicidal thoughts that I seriously considered actioning upon was in my early twenties. I was still in college. I was in an emotionally bad place, and when you’re that young, everything is the weight of the world. Even if, in hindsight, I now think about how shallow the reasons had been for my depression, I cannot discount the fact that it was a reality in me at that time.

What makes one think about taking one’s life is never truly shallow. We must always keep this in mind when we deal with people who may be suffering.

I can confidently say that I have not been at risk of such thoughts since the late 90s. I have never seriously contemplated taking my life since I started working and being independent, even in the most trying of times – situations perhaps worse than what I had in college.

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Farewell, Mr. Bourdain.

by on Jun.09, 2018, under Film & TV, Society, Travel & Culture

As you finally depart for parts unknown, know that you have made a powerful impact on how the world can better understand the values of culture and acceptance.

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IDAHOT? Keri!

by on May.17, 2018, under My Life, Queer, Society

Today is #IDAHOT: International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia.

Today we remember our brothers and sisters who became victims of violence and hate. Today we are reminded that, despite some progress in our struggle, the fight for our rights continues.

Respect and acceptance: because LGBT+ rights are human rights.

And perhaps, when people realize that, then we can truly say that it is an inclusive and diverse society.

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How To Raise A Snowflake

by on Mar.01, 2018, under Snark, Society

So it’s been two months to the day since I last blogged. After a year and a half of religiously writing here every single day without fail, I decided to take a break. Part of it was due to my mentor Jessica’s advice: no need to post everyday, a couple of times a week is okay. So I took a bit of a rest.

Today, I come out of my self-imposed exile because I just had to share my thoughts – posted on Facebook as well – about this “letter” that I saw on my newsfeed.

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Yes, Zac, I do want to find out.

by on Jan.01, 2018, under Film & TV, My Life, Society

This is my wish for everyone this coming new year: beautiful kisses from the one you love (or at least infatuated with). Consensual kisses, of course, because we do not want to be complicit in any of your crazy shenanigans beyond.

Barring kisses from your personal love, then I wish you kisses from Zac Efron. But you need to fall in line.

Happy New Year!

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Silver Belles

by on Dec.30, 2017, under My Life, Queer, Society, Travel & Culture

The beauty of silver shone through UP Babaylan as it celebrated its 25th year anniversary.

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Asians So Good

by on Dec.29, 2017, under Snark, Society

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Christmas Beyond

by on Dec.26, 2017, under Society

It’s not always about religion. It’s also about love and joy.

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